Hey Mom & Dad

So...If you find out your child has seen pornography. First off, don’t panic, and come down on them with an iron fist. It happens. And, how you respond next will help frame the conversation for the rest of your time with them.


If you find out your child has seen pornography (or other forms of sexually illicit material), gently tell them you’re sorry they had to see that. This shows them that you are safe, and it helps protect them from shame (which could lead them to go view pornography more).

Think about it. Pornography is harmful. If your kids saw something else that was harmful to them, you would tell them you’re sorry and try to help protect them in the future. Or, if your child fell down and hurt their arm, you would tell them you’re sorry that happened, you would bandage them up, and again, you would try to protect them in the future.

So why not respond that way with something as harmful as pornography? You can protect your kids from all kinds of unnecessary shame by simply being gentle with them when they encounter the destructive force of pornography. Trust us.

When you are gentle with them about pornography, they will feel even more comfortable talking to you about sex (and other vulnerable topics!). They need to feel comfortable talking to you because you’re the best resource for your child when it comes to the topic of sex!


-TheSexTalk Team-